I remember the first few years of my marriage, my husband was the only one that mattered. I was always glad that the first face I saw as I opened my eyes was his. A kiss was always in order and the first thing we'd say to each other was "i love you" morning breath and all. During the day, I eagerly awaited for his arrival from work and when he did my heart literally would skip a beat as I see his face. At night in bed, it was instinctive to grope for each other like teens and hold hands no matter how sleepy, drunk or tired we were. Days like that dwindled until one day, we simply didn't. Out of pride, I refused to break the ice even when I wanted to. I wanted all of those back but refused to initiate. I waited and waited for him until the waiting frustrated me and frustration turned to resentment. That resentment bred more sin in my heart than I ever could imagine. Through this dare, I retraced all. How and why we got to where we were and how to bring all those back. Knowing the problem paved way for the solution--initiative is the key and good impression ushered it all back in.
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Lord, I never realized how much my day-to-day actions could make a difference in my marriage. I used to think of my husband's morning kisses before leaving for work or his "i love yous" and his hand-groping before dozing off at night as nothing unusual and something done out of habit, so I would do the same precisely for the same reason. I went through the motion. Over the last eight days, I have looked at these things and am doing them with warmth and enthusiasm. Because, now I understand that by doing these what I used to call mundane things, I am giving value to my spouse, I am blessing him, touching him in subtle and unspoken ways and making him feel loved and treasured. Thank you, Father for speaking to my heart. In the last eight days, I have taken huge leaps. You taught me genuine love is not the giddy feeling but a steady one; that love is never narcissistic but sacrificing; a decision and a commitment not an emotion nor a promise you can break. I can never thank you enough. Amen.
Greet one another with a kiss of love. -- 1 Peter 5:14
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Lord, I never realized how much my day-to-day actions could make a difference in my marriage. I used to think of my husband's morning kisses before leaving for work or his "i love yous" and his hand-groping before dozing off at night as nothing unusual and something done out of habit, so I would do the same precisely for the same reason. I went through the motion. Over the last eight days, I have looked at these things and am doing them with warmth and enthusiasm. Because, now I understand that by doing these what I used to call mundane things, I am giving value to my spouse, I am blessing him, touching him in subtle and unspoken ways and making him feel loved and treasured. Thank you, Father for speaking to my heart. In the last eight days, I have taken huge leaps. You taught me genuine love is not the giddy feeling but a steady one; that love is never narcissistic but sacrificing; a decision and a commitment not an emotion nor a promise you can break. I can never thank you enough. Amen.
Greet one another with a kiss of love. -- 1 Peter 5:14