Desiring to be an intentional, invested and involved mom in the lives of my children... I share a glimpse of my triumphs and failures on my quest to capture their hearts ♥♥♥
by Tini Tadeo-Castillo
It has been stressed over and over again that the best thing a father can do for his children is to love and respect their mother. If this is the only criterion to measure how good a father is, you have done extremely well, maybe exceeded more than you ought to. Thank you that even as you had very little motivation, your love and respect for me transcended far beyond what I truly deserved. When I was such a torment to you as a wife and browbeating you, I realize how hard it was to maintain a loving, fun, and nurturing relationship with me in front of the kids. I don't know how you pulled it off, but somehow you did. You tried as best as you could to keep a good front even when we weren't on best terms. For pretending you enjoyed my very sour company to protect the kids from feeling the tension, thank you. Because of your respect for me, I know you earned the love and respect of Jam and Cicc. I know it's the reason why you are much more popular to them than I was. I used to resent that. I was a fool. Thank you from the bottom of my heart that our kids have learned a great, great deal of this lost art from you.
While our marriage was tested big time, the kids had no inkling of the strong current underneath the placid water. You were very careful that the hurt would only be contained within your heart and not be seen and imbibed by our children. I am certain it took every ounce of your strength and will to keep it to yourself, I would've failed if I was in your place. You tried your best to spare our kids the drama and tension. You made sure there was no trace of injury for the kids to see in the surface, though I knew the wounds run deep. You were the shield, our protector, a true hero.
~~ Therefore, however you want people to treat you, so treat them, for this is the Law and the Prophets. -- Matthew 7:12
~~Blessed indeed is the man who hears many gentle voices call him father! --Lydia M. Child